Generational Cycle: Doing It Right With Our Grandchildren
(Originally posted Feb 7th 2025)
Let's talk about a generational cycle that runs deep in some families that I never see get addressed.
Parents who fail their children, only to successfully and lovingly raise their grandchildren.
I've seen it with client's charts, I've noticed the pattern astrologically, and we need to get into it whether it's uncomfortable or not.
Here's how the cycle keeps churning: The adult child doesn't fully understand their childhood trauma and just how little they know and understand about being a good parent until becoming a parent. They were probably also raised by their grandparents. They become even more resentful than before, never able to heal the bond with mother or child. The child then grows up, the (grand)parent dies, and then the newly adult child's child is given to THEIR parent to successfully bond with and raise. Their child is consumed by untangling the trauma of living with their parent in early formidable years of development, to then compound it by abandonment, which is then covered up in a bandaid of becoming the bridge that feels responsible for protecting both parent and grandparent. That bandaid is viscerally ripped off when they become a parent themselves- and thus the cycle repeats.
It feels IMPOSSIBLE to be the monkey wrench in such a consuming system. But someone has to break this painful generational curse.
Here's the astrology I've noticed:
Patterns of Aries Moons, or hades moons with Aries Venus in the women in the family.
Ceres in a prominent position in the chart
SATURN all over the IC or Moon or Venus or in the 7th or 12th house- he's in one of these places and he is prominently aspecting the personal planets of the native and in synastry with parent and child
Moon conjunct AC on the 12th house side or in 9th
URANUS conj the IC, MC, conjunct opp or square Moon, Venus, Juno, or 8th house
THE MONKEY WRENCHES WILL HAVE either a prominent stellium in their chart and/or a prominent Lilith/Pluto signature.
We cant live like this anymore. We have to change what our parents cannot. We have to do better for the next generation, and not just make up for it with the kids they were too emotionally crippled to raise themselves.
If this post was a gut punch, I am deeply deeply sorry and I hope you know that I see you and I am proud of you no matter where in this cycle you fell, even if it just completely ran you over.
