The Honeymoon Mask Was Never Real
(Originally posted March 12th 2025)
This eclipse season feels like a full-circle moment in a journey that began with last year’s eclipse, which was exact to the minute conjunct Chiron. Tomorrow's lunar eclipse will open us up emotionally to process and take action on what the solar eclipse activates within our chart.
Last year's eclipse forced us to peel back layers of shame, rejection, abandonment, and loss, layers we may not have even realized were there until such a bright light was thrust upon it. This is the first layer of the Chironic journey: infant exposure, rejected by both mother and father, left to fend for himself long before he even had the capacity to do so. Only through the grace of pity did Apollo take him to raise. This is a very visceral wound to feel at a preverbal stage in our lives (0-3).
It set us on an intense path of healing, pushing us to transcend those wounds into something greater: self-respect, self-worth, and a calling to guide others through what we’ve survived.
But healing isn’t graceful. It’s not a straight path, and it’s rarely soft. The past 12 months have been painful because healing requires confronting hard truths about ourselves and the patterns we’ve allowed to shape our lives. We can’t fix what we refuse to acknowledge. And sometimes, acknowledging it is devastating. But shame is how we got here, and feeling ashamed for playing a role in our own suffering will not serve us at all.
We need to find the strength and bravery in integrity, because it's something most people simply are too afraid to have.
This year’s eclipse is bringing all of that full circle, and this time, through the lens of relationships and communication. It occurs at the same degree as Mercury's retrograde (9 Aries), and just 1 degree away from Venus' (10 Aries). With Venus and Mercury retrograding from Aries back into Pisces, the focus is shifting toward how our earliest wounds have shaped what we seek in love, what we tolerate, and what we mistake for intimacy. Aries is the infant of the zodiac, and Pisces is the deep subconscious mind.
When shame, abandonment, and fear are deeply embedded into our early experiences, they alter our perception of love well into adulthood. We often mistake urgency for passion. We confuse obsession with devotion. We assume that if someone isn’t rushing to claim us, they must not want us at all. But true love isn’t built on a feverish chase! It’s built on a steady foundation. The people who take their time aren’t disinterested; they’re intentional. And the ones who come in like wildfire? More often than not, they are selling a fantasy. This insecurity about being chosen, about being prioritized, works against us in this situation.
This is why we find ourselves in the same cycles, convinced we keep choosing the wrong people when, in reality, it’s not that we keep choosing them, it’s that they keep choosing us. Predators don’t accidentally end up with victims. They seek them out. Within the first two dates, they already know whether you’ll buy into their dream. They don’t go after people who have nothing to offer. They go after people with immense depth, intelligence, and love, but who are still vulnerable to believing the illusion.
𝗜𝗱𝗸 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗱𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗼𝗻 𝗽𝗵𝗮𝘀𝗲. That version of them was never real, it was just damn good bait. The real them is the person who hurts you, who gaslights you, who breaks you down and then makes you believe he can build you back up. You don’t miss them . You miss the dream you were sold. And you certainly can't "fix" them back into someone he never was in the first place.
This eclipse is the moment we stop believing in that dream. The moment we stop seeing our wounds as an inevitable part of our identity and start seeing them as a doorway into something greater. Once we leave behind the attachment to those initial wounds of shame, rejection, abandonment, and loss, we step up into a thirst for life and soak up everything we can in an effort to learn how to prevent this from ever happening to us again and to help others see the light at the end of the tunnel for themselves.
These are the next layers of the Chironic Journey. Where healing transforms into wisdom, and survival into strength.
When we finally understand the depth of our own healing, we become the very person we once needed. And there is nothing more powerful than that.
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